C'est La Vie

"No longer forward nor behind
I look in hope and fear;
But grateful take the good I find,
The best of now and here."
- John G. Whittier

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

The Real Girl

Lars and the Real Girl. To sum it up, it's a quirky little movie about loneliness and how that makes relationships difficult. Not just a "love" relationship, but those with family, friends, neighbors, everone. And it makes you feel for people who have social, psychological disorders. I mean, who buys a "love" doll and believes that it's a real live girlfriend?! But you feel for Lars. And you appreciate his situation.

You see, it's because Lars begins to deal with his life tragedies by having this obviously fake relationship with Bianca, the doll who obviously doesn't know anything about him and can't. He reaches out to the people around him who loves him who he's been alienating from, through Bianca. She helps him. That's the genius of it. But here's the best part. Not only does Lars reach out, but everyone else reaches out to him. When he would alienate himself, pretty much everyone left him alone, thought "yeah, he has problems, but I don't know what to do, how to handle him, how to fix him, so let's just leave him alone." You see? Lars was alienating everyone else, but it was really everyone else that was alienating Lars. Genius. And with the help of Bianca, Lars asked them to be in his life and for him to be in their lives in the most absurd, completely subtle/direct way imaginable.

So if you're feeling alone and that nobody gets you and that nobody tries to understand you....

Monday, February 11, 2008

The Psychiatrist Is In

Today I am a movie critic.

I just finished watching an awesome movie. Charlie Bartlett. It's a comedy starring Anton Yelchin, who by the way has an adorable accent. He's fun to just listen to. Anyways, the movie is the best high school themed movie ever. No exaggeration. Well, it may come off as an exaggeration to you, but to me it's perfect.

It touches base on peer pressure, popularity, loneliness. All built around relationships. A relationship between a post borderline alcoholic father and a teenage daughter, trust issues between adults and kids, and the most important relationship of all: you and yourself. It's magnificent. The movie tapped into how parents, specifically, want their kids to go to college in something specific, something where they can be successful, career-wise and financially, but which in actually is not passionate enough to ensure happiness. This movie hits home. But not too hard that it makes you feel bad. It's a total feel good movie in a anti-corny way. It'll make you smile. It's in a category that I love: it makes your heart smile.

Charlie becomes something of a psychiatrist @ his school. He gains popularity, trust. People know who he is and respects him for what he does. But what they like most about him, I think, is that he listens. He doesn't judge, he listens. It makes you think. How many people can you talk to where they just listen? They don't make you feel bad about talking about pursuing a dream or hearing about your anxiety or internal hardships? Who listens to you? Better yet (and this is what I loved about the movie), who supports you? I'm talkign about 100% support. The kind that makes you feel better about yourself, that convinces you just a little bit more that you're not foolish, naive, or just plain crazy. Who makes you feel that it's okay to be a dreamer? Dreaming's good. Why wake up when you can be happy?

I loved this movie. It was funny, ironic, and teaches people a thing or two: you may need medication for ADD or anxiety attacks, but what you really need is an ear and shoulder to lean on. Well, maybe not a shoulder - shoulder's get tired and they shrug. A wall. Yeah, you need a wall. That's better support. Find yourself someone who's the concrete to your wall. No fear, no regrets. Never worrying about being judged a tiny blip or judgment. Most importantly, you need to listen. You don't realize how important it is for you to just shut up and listen. But a lot of people can't do that. Only when you need someone to listen is when you realize how important it is for you to listen back.

Trust. Trust in others, but especially.....trust yourself. That's what Charlie Bartlett taught me. That's what he can help you understand. That is, if you take the time and patience to just....listen.

If you feel confused, alone, misunderstood, invisible, lost, distrusted, unappreciated, this movie will make you feel better. And it will make you laugh. And smile. It'll just make you feel good!

Friday, February 01, 2008

I'm a 5

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